GIVEAWAY & Seven tips on how what you wear can make you successful
Updated: Feb 24
This week we’ll be exploring fashion psychology through a memory of my first Wildflowers of London event, and I’ll leave you with seven tips inspired by Big Dress Energy by Shakaila Forbes-Bell (which I’ll also be giving away a copy of at the end of the post) so you can use what you wear to hack your way to success.
Recap - Why chase success?
My obstacles to getting to success all seem to centre around the fact I’m young. I’m 24 years old. Anyone reading this over the age of 35 is probably going to ask me why I’m in such a rush, but I don’t think I’m rushing. I’m learning. I decided I can probably read about some mistakes instead of making them myself, which is bound to save me at least a few years.
I take longer to achieve excellence because I’m still learning, that’s why companies pay for people with experience, however, what I lack in speed I make up for with hours spent. I’m lucky enough to be free of any real day-to-day responsibilities besides my job, my own health and my friends. Those are three big things, but most older people have to deal with that along with a family, pets or parents.
While I have the energy and the time, I want to figure out all the hacks I can on how to be successful at my job because even though there is so much I am wrong about and even more that I don’t know, a lot of people who are smarter than I am have determined being wealthier is more likely to lead to happiness, and what separates wealth from the other nine things on that list is it’s one of the two things on that list I want but don’t have, and I know I can do something about it.
Can what you wear make you successful?
After loads of research on happiness I’ve learned wealthier people tend to be happier. Of course, this isn’t the only factor that contributes to happiness. As we explored last week there are at least nine, but after my house burned down when I was 16, I have this deeply embedded instinct to make sure I have enough to take care of myself and the people I love. I realised a way to make sure that happens is to learn from others and use the tools around me- starting with the clothes in my closet.
But first... a story
I heard about Fashion Psychology at my first-ever Wildflowers on London event, which is a networking group for female entrepreneurs and professionals. I remember being introduced to the group by one of my closest friends Miky, who was a receptionist at the House of St. Barnabas where the event was being hosted. Lou Nylander, who leads the group and would come to be a role model for me, was kind enough to invite her and a plus one for the night to listen in on the panel.
I remember what I wore that night. It was a white & Other Stories dress with puffy sleeves I got from a charity shop for £20. I wanted to look presentable but wasn’t in the mood to stand out. It was my first time in the group and the voice inside my head that likes to feel safe told me I needed the option to hide if I had to. When I got to the event, I wished I’d dressed a bit more business-like. I remember feeling like everyone looked more mature than me (which they were), but to be honest, I didn’t let it bother me much, and like I said I picked an outfit I felt safe in. I’ve always known my greatest strength was ears that listen, not eyes that pick outfits.
I’m going to write this next section purely from memory, and in the follow